I still remember when my friend John called me on a Sunday afternoon two years ago. He had an enthusiastic tone in his voice. “I want you to meet Marta, she is the most incredible woman I’ve ever met. Come to my place tomorrow at 6 p.m. and I’ll introduce you to her.”
He was clearly head over heels. In the beginning, I was slightly skeptical, as I thought it was the typical lustful ‘honeymoon period’ that was influencing him, but I was truly glad to hear him happy and I accepted the invitation.
Fast forward to today, they are still together, and I know Marta much better. I now understand why John was overwhelmingly happy at the beginning of their relationship, and why he’s so in love with her today. …
Charming people. They always have an exciting story to tell, and they have that seemingly innate ability to make you feel at ease in their company.
It seems some people were simply born like that.
When they enter a room, everyone notices their presence. They are like magnets, and when they talk, everyone hangs on every single word coming out of their mouth.
Many of us often wonder how those people can have such a magnetic personality. Is there a secret formula? How did they become how they are? Were they just born like that?
The answer is, we are all capable of engaging with others and igniting their interest in us. …
Four years ago, during a normal day at the office, my friend Sarah went to the kitchen and a nice guy approached her. She knew he liked her, as she had caught him staring at her a few times. He was nervous, and she could see it. So she did her best to make him feel at ease.
They had a short and pleasant conversation that afternoon, then chatted on Messenger for a few days, and after a week they went on their first date.
Fast forward to today, they are one of the coolest couples I’ve ever met.
I’ve asked Sarah how they can make such a perfect couple. …
Authentic people. Most of us tend to feel comfortable and safe around them. There is no hidden agenda behind their actions, and this is why we tend to trust them.
Usually, they’re the ones who stick around, even when they don’t need anything from you. They’re the ones who whisper you have something on your face and help you clean it off. And they’re the ones who have the guts to tell you your “best friend” is talking behind your back.
You know they’d never use you. And you know they’d never lie to you. Because they don’t even lie to themselves. …
“I thought the date went well. Then she disappeared. I don’t get it.”
Weeks ago, I was talking to a friend who had been on a date with a girl he really liked. He said he thought things had gone wonderfully. However, after the date, this girl ghosted him for apparently no reason.
These things happen. Oftentimes two people are simply not a good match — so they stop dating. At other times, we see something in the other person we find unattractive, we don’t see relationship potential, and our instinct to run kicks in.
What follows are things that might make you annoying or even unattractive to others. …
Our habits directly control the quality of our life. As a result, if we manage to control our habits, we have more power over our life.
As James Clear writes in his book “Atomic Habits”:
“The quality of our lives depends on the quality of our habits.”
Whether you’re a student, a freelance writer, an entrepreneur, a CEO, or even a kid who goes to school, your habits define who you are. Every single day. They either empower you or hold you back from achieving what you want, in all areas of your life.
What follows are ten simple habits that are having a strong impact on my life and can improve yours too. …
Few things are worse than first-date silence. Knowing a few conversation-starters and knowing how to use them during a date can improve your dating experiences. However, there is something even more effective than conversation-starters: follow-up questions.
These are questions that can make conversations deeper because by using them, you encourage the other person to share more details about what they are already talking about. To say it another way, you encourage them to talk more about what they actually want to talk about — usually themselves.
Asking follow-up questions is a great way to put into practice what Dale Carnegie once said: “Talk to someone about themselves, and they’ll listen for hours.” …
A few months ago, after the first COVID lockdown, I lost one of the most important people in my life.
My grandfather, who was like a father to me, passed away. He left an emptiness behind that I can hardly describe. It may sound trivial, but the only thing I can do now is focus on the good memories, and think about the unique and memorable person he was. He lived his life to the fullest, and always with a great sense of humor.
After he left us, I’ve talked about him with my mother quite frequently. And there is something she tells me every time: “To me, he was an incredible man, an everyday genius. And he had this innate ability to spark everyone’s interest in him. Everyone loved to spend time talking with him. …
Emotional immaturity is not easy to identify, especially during the early stages of a relationship. It usually manifests after a few months you are dating someone.
As professor Berit Brogaard, D.M.Sci., Ph.D. explained, emotionally immaturity is traditionally thought of as a situation in which a grown man or woman is childish and immature, despite their age. As mentioned in an article published in Healthline, someone emotionally immature will find it hard to effectively communicate or process their emotions and can often appear selfish or aloof.
Also, as psychologist Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. explains in an article published in Psychology Today, the actions that come from emotional immaturity — such as jealousy, accusing, and snooping — can erode trust, and can turn a partner off. …
When it comes to improving our relationships and social skills, conversation starters are a great tool because they help us break the ice and get to know others better.
However, I’ve recently realized that follow-up questions are just as important, especially when talking to people who don’t open up easily.
I have always been a shy introvert, and I don’t open up easily. However, I have noticed that when someone shows curiosity about me, my passions and goals — or anything that makes me tick — it’s easier for me to reveal more about myself. …